In a marriage breakdown a situation exists were either or both spouses no longer are able or willing to live with each other, therefore what they are doing is destroying their husband and wife relationship with no hope of resumption of spousal duties. In many case the lack of communication contributes to marriage breakdown. Problems are either not acknowledged or in some cases ignored in the hope that the marriage might miraculous work out. But this is never the case ignoring the problems only serves to make things worse. Some of the issue that contribute to the brake down maybe minute but have devastating consequences for all concerned. The irretrievable breakdown of a marriage provides the ground for a no-fault divorce in many jurisdictions. Irretrievable breakdown of marriage can be defined as such, it is a failure in the matrimonial relationship or the circumstances are so adverse to that relationship there is that no reasonable probability remaining for the husband and wife to stay together as husband and wife for mutual comfort and support.
If the situation occurs in a marriage when one person refuses to live with the other, it is important to see if they can work towards reconciling their differences. When there is no hope that parties can be reconciled to continue their matrimonial life, the marriage can be considered as irretrievable broken down. As in any divorce situation the cases of the affects of the separate may have on the children (if there are any) must be addressed quite quickly. If the divorce drags on it affects a lot of people and the
innocent parties such as the children are forced to suffers the hurt and pain, that an amicable separation would bring. In some case the reason for the divorce maybe based on the ground that one part may have commit adultery or just deserted their partner. It is not uncommon for separation to occur if one party is suffers from different forms of abuse or human cruelty. Whatever the grounds for the divorce it is better that mutual respect towards the other person is shown. If neither party is at fault and there is a agreement that the marriage
is no longer working then the separation maybe completed quickly without creating high levels of stress and angry for all concerned.
- Sexual Inactivity
- Financial problems
- Changes in ones direction in life
- Death of a loved one
- Infidelity
- Alcoholism
- Drug Abuse
- Fail ambitions
- Unmet needs
- Inability to resolve basic concerns / issues
- Personal differences
- Children and your expectations of their direction in life
- External family influence
- Immaturity in the relationship
- Intellectual and sexual compatibility
- Ones culture
- Religion
- Falling out of love
- Boredom in the relationship
- Illness
- Disability
- Criminality
- Sexual preference may alter
Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Have I really listened in full to what my partner is saying?
Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Do I understand what the other person was saying, did I hear them correctly?
Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Do we need help to stop from going around in circles. Remember you may have a good honest friend that could help and deal with the issue in a more direct manner. If you are unable to avail of the services of a good friend the you could obtain the services of a professional counsellor. Are both parties willing to ask for help?
Please note, don't keep rehashing old hurts and insults when things are hot and angry. Do focus on whatever is of concern at that time. Talk about what's current time period as what is relevant and important NOW not in the past.
Don't place all the blame on your shoulders. Sometime misunderstandings are grounds for conflict. They are often used to apportion blame or fault for the failure within the marriage. You have to be wiling to ask yourself: Can I refrain from blaming my ex-partner for the difficulties encounter during the marriage?
Remember invest time in your relationship. Allow each other have their say on matters and come to a common agreement on issues without shame, embarrassment or stinginess being applied.
In marriage the balance of nature must be always applied. There must always be give and take, hot and cold, high and low, etc. scale. If not, chances are marriage will give way under the pressure and strain forced upon it. Eucate In Mind
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